Manifesting love is a simple thing to do if you know how to do it. But what are the right steps? How to manifest love doing the right things?
I was once asking myself these questions… I had a downswing in my romantic life and for a longer period (few years…) I was literally repelled towards women. That happened after my heart was broken and I was really lost – I didn’t know what to do. However, there was one very important thing that was probably the #1 reason why today I’m living the life of my dreams when it comes to my romantic relationships – and that is – I NEVER for a second lost my hope and belief that true love indeed exists and that I WILL find my soul mate!
I’ll write about my personal story perhaps in some other article – it’s actually one of the most amazing love stories you’ll ever hear about! But more about that at later…
Manifesting love seems to be a problem for so many people, and that’s exactly why I wrote this article, to give you the tools, the methods, the blueprint – and to let you know that you CAN have anything you want…
Keep reading until the end of this article and you’ll have all the answers to all of these and many more questions…
Understanding our Problem
Indeed, life is a fleeting thing and as years pass, we realize that new responsibilities and obligations are waiting for us. We need to start a family, have kids and watch them grow. I believe that this is, or at least it should be, a top priority for every person on this planet.
Besides that, the pressure of life will begin to have its impact on us, and so, we will feel the need to have another person we can talk to, share our problems and worries with, and even conquer the world together.
This is when we begin the search. Most of the times, it is intensively excruciating and disappointing. We may get in relationships that turn out not to be what we expected. We get disappointed and discouraged, and we are deeply mad not only on our partner, but to the whole opposite sex in general. Some people close themselves completely and are not able to attract ANYONE into their love – they become lonely…
This is when we begin to loathe relations. We begin to be skeptical, and sometimes, we may even question ourselves whether there is such a thing as “true love”. Of course, there may be problems that may have led to these failed relationships. They may be issuing from both the world within and the world without.
It is therefore important to search deeper into our souls, introspect our lives so that we can learn the art of manifesting true love. This is the only way to ensure that we will find that one person suitable for us and live a happy, fulfilled life.
There’s Good News Too…
I’d also like to mention and encourage you that, finding the true love, is one of the most, if not, THE MOST exhilarating and rewarding facets of all human experiences. When you find the right “one“, everything in your life is affected and made better – your viewpoint on life, your relationships, your obstacles and problems just seem to be so much easier to deal with and solve.
It manifests itself in an unconscious smile when you think of the romantic and sweet things that happened, it gives you the inspiration like there is an extra spring in your steps.
The steps that follow…are POWERFUL! And I’m not saying this to get you excited about yourself or to give you any “false hope“. Believe me, that is the last thing on my mind. These methods WORK! They work, but only when you put them into action and not when you read them.
Get this – You can read 5 thousand books on love and the law of attraction, but if you don’t experiment with the techniques and exercises you will NEVER have any results! You have to take action and DO the exercises!
I know that the article is long (4000+ words) but I want to include everything and to make it as comprehensive as possible for you to enjoy the greatest benefit. Read everything – you owe it to yourself!
Let’s begin 🙂
13 Steps for Manifesting Love in Your Life
Step #1- Find a Quiet Place and Make a Decision
Meditation is extremely helpful to gather thoughts and get organized. Start to analyze yourself. What are your deepest passions? What is your mission in life, and what kind of a person can be your company on the journey of the achievement of your dreams? What are you really looking for in a partner?
List all the qualities that you desire and in some way match yours, decide how you want to be treated, and what kind of person will bring out the best in you. You are not magically showering these qualities on a person, but you are actually looking for a relationship based on mutual understanding and an exciting, loving life journey. Write down on a piece of paper or in a journal the qualities of that person.
Set real and acceptable expectations, otherwise you’re in for a big disappointment because there is not a single perfect person on the planet, one way or another, we all have flaws and black sides…
Condition yourself in a way to be consciously ready to accept that. Imagine life together in the future with that person, and feel how he or she will be someone you cannot live without.
Finally, make the final decision what this person is like, and decide that from now on, you’ll do everything you can to be with this wonderful soul mate of yours. It all starts without a decision – without it, you’re lost in life and you’ll give up on the first obstacle! But once you make a firm decision that YES, this is what I want and I am going to GET IT, then you set the most powerful forces in the Universe to do your bidding – even though you’re not aware of what you’re actually doing!
Step #2 – Love Yourself
You have to love yourself before you can love others. You need to take care of yourself, appreciate, and treat yourself with respect. This will boost your loving capability and also help you understand what the other person expects from you.
Look in the mirror and appreciate what you see. Be thankful for your life. How can you really love somebody, if you do not love yourself, if you think lowly of your appearance, qualities and abilities? Accept yourself the way you are and learn to love yourself – our spiritual DNA is PERFECT!
Become confident and boost your self-esteem. This will surely flow out of you and give an overall wonderful aura. There’s a famous saying that goes like this: “If a naked person offers you clothes, you better not accept them!”…
The same goes with everything in life… If you want to be loved, you must first understand love, and give love, to yourself and to the rest of the world. Like, always attracts like – remember that!
So love yourself right now at this moment – take your hand and KISS IT! I really mean it, do it right now as you read this text! Kiss your hand and shout out loud – “I LOVE MYSELF!” Every day when I wake up – I kiss myself!
Step #3 – Make Yourself Presentable
This is a very basic, but very often overlooked part of our daily life.
Do not abandon yourself in the process. Besides, too much thinking can cause you early wrinkles. With hectic schedules, one can easily get busy at the start of the day rushing about, forgetting to even check if their hair is in place, and definitely no time for mixing and matching clothes, or putting on some make up (for women).
There’s no need to dress up extravagantly, just practice proper hygiene, keep yourself looking fresh at all times so you will always be prepared for any surprise encounter. How can you ignite a spark looking dull yourself and a lot older than your actual age?
So take care of yourself, and try to always look presentable, even if it’s just going to the local supermarket! It’s the feelings you’ll get from this kind of attitude that counts, not your outfit. You will feel good in your skin and your vibration will radiate around you. When you don’t feel good, even if you’re the most attractive human being (physically) you will repel others from you.
Step #4 – Affirmations and Self Motivation
Make a commitment with yourself. This is your goal and do not stray away from it, regardless of the obstacles that will keep to encounter. You’ve got to keep trying, and never give up! It might be hard at the beginning, but soon this will become a habit and your persistence will become automatic.
Think what you want to accomplish for the day, like “Today I will find my true love.” Create notes for your thoughts of the day, or write inspirational and motivational quotes that strike you and follow the beat of your heart. Read them often and on a regular basis.
Besides that, you should wear a goal card constantly in your pocket and read it as much as you can every day. Write your goal in the present tense, empower it with some strong emotions, put the goal card in your purse or in your pocket, and read it every day, for as long as you can, and as much as you can.
Step #5 – Read Books
You might think, how can reading books help you to manifest love? Men and women are smarter and more cautious now, not to go for the most part for looks, and for physical appearance. Of course that appearance counts for something, but its role in attracting love is really of minor importance. Love happens on a spiritual, not on a physical level.
What is admired now is a person who seems to know a lot of stuff, a person who makes sense when they talk, someone successful in their own field, a person with a purpose in life, some who can listen and understand others, show compassion and GIVE before trying to TAKE.
It is a man or woman that knows their true qualities and their missions in life, people that keep educating, expanding and growing, and all of this can be achieved by reading good quality books.
By doing so, you can then apply your knowledge and gain wisdom, exhibited by thinking first before speaking and acting. Explore the mysteries out there, and be open to new ideas and areas for self improvement.
This way you become much more conversational and interesting. Also, reading about other’s experiences can give you much needed inspiration to keep going on.
Of course, this step is not obligatory, as we all know that uneducated and “stupid” people love, and are being loved, and this is perfectly fine the way it is.
Everybody deserves to be loved, that’s our birthright. However, this step at the very least, will boost your self-confidence and your self-esteem, which is always welcomed and cannot hurt you in any way, it can only help you.
Step #6 – You Become What You Think About
This is a statement that literally all philosophers have agreed upon. They almost literally disagree on everything else, but at this point, they are at an unanimous agreement! Start to monitor your thinking, and deeply believe that you do become, what you think about most of the time!
When you feel bad or have any undesirable feelings, do not think about the person you want to attract, for you will just invite negativity in your life and push that person even more further from you. Try to eliminate all bad thoughts and emotions and focus on the love that awaits you.
Here’s an exercise: Whenever you’re experience negative thoughts and emotions, take a VERY DEEP BREATH and imagine good positive emotions filling your entire being. On the exhale, imagine how all negative thoughts and emotions are going out along with the air you exhale. This is a very powerful technique!
Whatever you are thinking has a way to become reality, you can attract that exact thing you are anxious of, or worrying about, unless you stop doing so, and replace all that nonsense with positive thoughts. In line with this, put in mind what you really want, and stick to it, do not be like the weather that keeps changing.
Step #7 – Be Positive In Anything and Everything
To be positive means being positive as a whole, in your thoughts, words and deeds. This requires forming a positive attitude in all plains of life and truly incorporating it in your life by making it a habitual way of living.
One thing cannot truly be meant for the better good, if it does not correlate with the other, like saying flowery stuff about a person or to a person, but deep inside, to really have bad thoughts about him or her. People can feel your vibration on an intuitive level.
You can say that you feel good, but with your tone of voice and your vibration, what you are actually saying is, I don’t feel good at all… So SAY what you mean, and MEAN what you say!
Forget about the things that make you feel sad, angry, fearful, or any kind of negative emotion.
Forget, or at least do not think about problems and things that you cannot change, and focus on the love that awaits you and believe that it’s happening. Stay positive and you will be surrounded with positivity, good things will naturally come your way. Make positivity your preferred way of living!
Step #8 – Believe In Yourself
How can you achieve something if you yourself have doubts whether you can do it or not? This seems like a problem for many people…However, “believing in yourself” is a skill that can be mastered by anyone. Nothing is impossible when you believe, right?
Belief is the most powerful emotion in the Universe… it’s the groundwork for almost every religion and for every big achievement throughout history.
So don’t underestimate the power of this step.
If you follow all the steps before, to believe in yourself will become a very natural thing for you. It will become a routine and a habit, and that’s exactly what you’re shooting at! You develop faith by repetition of the same thoughts and ideas – so repeat that you’re a worthwhile person deserving love! Believe that you can achieve anything you want in life, believe that the Love you have been so long desiring and waiting for, it’s finally going to manifest in your life!
Step #9 – Keep Cool
The feeling of waiting too long to no extent seems to be like dark clouds hovering around with no sign for the sun. It might seem hopeless and hard at times, and it can get you depressed, or even make you feel angry or fearful.
Never let yourself to fall in this common pitfall! Always have hope and never let yourself down. Be patient and deeply know that good things are coming your way. Do not let joy and happiness to be drawn and drained out of you. Just stay calm and keep cool, your soul mate WILL appear in your life.
Step #10 – Go Out and Interact
Step into action, don’t wait somebody to knock on your door! Explore life and meet new people. This increases the likelihood and chances of finding the right person. Sitting around and doing nothing never does any good.
Keep an open mind and become friends with your friend’s circle of friends.
This does not necessarily mean going out on blind dates or doing anything extraordinary, out of your league.
Instead, it can easily be accomplished if you keep on doing every other day task or routine. Like hanging out with friends, running errands, walking around your neighborhood, going on events, concerts, going to the park, to the gym, or any other place…
You never know where you might just bump into your soul mate and to discover that he or she is the true love of your life!
Step #11- Re-establish Connections
You never know if the person you’re looking for could be just around the corner, or if he or she is someone you’ve never taken notice of. Keep in touch. Catch up with a friend, sit over coffee, or attend reunions.
It is said that you have to keep smiling all the time, for you have no idea if someone’s watching you and falling in love right at that moment. What’s there to lose in letting happiness flow out by starting with a mere smile?
So keep smiling and re-establish your connections, talk with people and socialize as much as you can. Call some old friends that you haven’t contacted for a long time and try make a rapport with more people. Be proactive, don’t just sit and do nothing, look for your ideal partner!
Step #12 – Be Happy For Yourself And For Others
You should always feel happy, no matter the circumstances in your life. Happiness comes from the world within, from your thoughts and feelings, and not from some outside events or situations.
Also, don’t be a cynic and don’t be jealous for other happy couples. Be happy that other people found their ideal partners and feel it from the bottom of your heart. Be really happy for them, regardless of how hard this may seem to you. What you put out it will come back! If you radiate love and happiness, that’s exactly what will come back to you!
Soon will come the time when the universe will reward you in the exact proportion to your beliefs and emotions. Remember that you are not searching for “happiness” but a loving relationship. Happiness is a very positive and powerful energy which you already have, if you only decide to feel it and become aware of it.
Step #13 – Be Grateful
This step should have been put probably at the beginning of this list because it’s so vital to your success and not just in your love life, but in every other area as well.
You must be constantly grateful for all the good things that the Universe is sending to you. Also, express thankfulness for the things that are yet to come in your life, although you can’t see them with your eyes. Don’t underestimate the laws of the nature!
Be grateful for the partner that’s coming to you, and be grateful for the fantastic loving relationship that awaits you…soon, the Universe will reward you with some big dividends in the form of love!
Remember this quote: “The Struggle Ends, When the Gratitude Begins”
Make the decision that each and every morning, you’ll sit in front of your journal or notebook and write AT LEAST 3 things that you’re deeply grateful for. Do this for 90 days, and you’ll change your life completely!
Conclusion for the Entire Process …
The most important thing that you have to understand is that your belief and hope should never vanish! You must always believe in yourself and the power of the Universe (God, super-conscious mind, source – whatever name you choose).
Remember this statement from “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill and internalize it into your personality: “Whatever the mind can CONCEIVE and BELIEVE it can ACHIEVE”!
Never give up! Be patient in your love quest, and know that you deserve only the best! Avoid the traps like being discouraged or looking for the right love in the wrong places, or perhaps settling for the first opportunity that you see…
With time, with proper mindset, strong persistence, unwavering faith and determination, the best results should come to you naturally.
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When you finally attract your soul mate and experience the manifestation of true love, don’t be afraid to give out your love 100% , and make an active effort to preserve and grow it.
The person that you finally share it with deserves all the love that you can give, as you know that you deserve all of it as well.
Always do for others, what you want others to do for you! Know that maintaining your love is just as important as finding and attracting it.
4 BONUS Tips for Keeping Your Love
Now that you have your ideal partner beside you, it’s time to take care of him or her and keep them for the rest of your life. Here are 4 simple tips that you can use for strengthening and bettering your relationships.
One of the ways in which you can keep and take love on a deeper level, is by ensuring that you can trust each other with your partner. It is very painful when you feel that your partner does not trust you, when you find him/her spying on you, or when you don’t trust them.
This will make you feel betrayed and unloved, therefore, to find no need to be in such a relationship. This brings out the fact that trust is one of those pillars that keep a relationship on its toes.
To prevent the collapse of your relationship, try to avoid questioning and spying on your partners as if you do not trust them. If it is painful to you, it is painful to them too. This ends up creating a rift in your relationship, and at the end, everything comes tumbling down.
So, practice mutual trust, share your problems often and be completely honest and open in front of each other. A very good technique is to create mutual affirmations and read them together every night before sleeping.
A good loving relationship means that you spend quality time with your partner. It means doing things which bring pleasure to the both of you. This tells you that you should understand each other’s common grounds in order to be able to exploit these grounds to your advantage.
It is not advisable to spend time on doing what the other party feels is boring, or perhaps lacks interest in.
For example, if the both of you are lovers of adventure and nature, then it is advisable to go for a hike. Visit those breath-taking areas and share the awe together. It will always be memorable, and will always remind you of each other.
A very good advice here would be to take a time, each night before sleeping, place the hands on each other’s hearts, and look deeply into each other’s eyes. Try to penetrate into the soul of your partner.
Understand your soul mate, understand how she or he feels, and try to connect with her or him!
# Being Non-Judgmental
Manifesting true love means working to ensure that you do not judge the other party harshly when they make an error. This means preparing yourself emotionally and psychologically on how you will deal with the challenges that may arise in your relationship.
It is very hard to have a relationship that is always perfect. Challenges will always arise, and these are meant to make you stronger. However, it matters a lot on how you may deal with them, especially if you believe that your partner is wrong.
It is important to understand that some mistakes may not be intended. If you learn this, then you will learn to say “it’s okay“, forgive and forget, and move on with life. Refusing to solve problems will only mean the stunting of your relationship and within minutes, it will be heads for the rocks.
So don’t judge, instead, always look for the positive characteristics of your loving partner. Do this, until you turn it into a habit, and life will never be the same again.
A relationship is a platform that ensures that you share your life with someone special. Sometimes, people may get into relationships with the hope of filling the voids in their lives, or for the sake of avoiding loneliness. If this is the case, then you will always be disappointed.
Experiencing a true love, demands that you care for that person. You truly share each other’s emotions, and you wish all the good that life can offer to your soul mate.
You shouldn’t want him/her to deal with your problems. Try to solve them by yourself, and don’t transfer negativity to your mate. It is very good that you love your husband or wife for who they actually are, instead of trying to change them so that they can fit your expectations. Doing this is not love, meaning that such a relationship will never work.
Care for your love, if not you, who else will??? Support each other!
To summarize the bonus tips…
It is very important to observe the above tips if you want your relationship to have a positive turn around. Remember that a relationship is all about conquering the world together. It is all about sharing happiness together, but problems and bad things in life as well…
It does not mean bullying or forcing your soul mate into things that they are not interested into. It means to understand them when they err, forgive their mistakes, respect them and love them. Also, if you make mistakes, don’t be egoistic to ask for forgiveness.
Make room for their folks in your life, share time together as a couple, always tell the truth and move on to share a life that is full of happiness and fulfillment. Introverted conceitedness won’t improve your relationship an inch, it will instead destroy it.
Now it’s up to you… Take this valuable advice in this article and move into action. Don’t wait something magical to happen, you are the only creator of your destiny!